Sunday, March 30, 2008

family friendly culture

This came to me on one of my email lists. Find the full article here. This is yet another grand example of how ridiculously un-mother-child-friendly our culture is.

A Maryland judge sentenced a breastfeeding mother to a night in jail or a
$150 fine, after she asked to postpone her jury duty.

Elizabeth Jett's baby boy Henry was less than 12 weeks old when she was called for jury duty. "I think it's a case of priorities. Taking care of your children should be your first priority. Jury duty can always come later," Jett said.

Jett asked to postpone and serve during the Summer, when Henry would be older and her mother, a full-time teacher, could take care of him and his five-year-old brother.

The Carroll County judge said Jett was in contempt of court, which Jett thought was unbelievable. "I was just shocked. I couldn't even put it into words," she said.

Legislation that would allow nursing mothers with children under the age of two to be excused from jury duty was introduced for the second time. When the plan was proposed in 2004, many lawmakers shot it down.

Brian Frosh, Chair for the Maryland Senate Judicial Proceedings Committee, said the law would cause more people to try to postpone their duties, "If you start saying, we're gonna excuse people for breastfeeding, you've gotta say ok to kidney dialysis, chemotherapy and all the other maladies that afflict the human condition."

Frosh said the law already gives judges broad discretion to excuse residents from jury duty, "So what we want is for judges to use their discretion liberally."

As for Elizabeth Jett, she has since asked for a waiver, because she can't afford the fine. The judge in the case, Barry Hughes, did not want to comment. The jury commissioner hung up on Andrea McCarren, as soon as she identified herself as a reporter.

In the state of Maryland there is an exception for members of the military:

Are members of the military exempt from jury service?

There is no automatic exemption for members of the federal or state military services. You may claim such an exemption if your jury service on the date requested would unreasonably interfere with the performance of military duties or affect adversely the readiness of the military unit. The form certifying these requirements must be completed by the commanding officer or supervisor of the person requesting exemption.

In the state of Maryland there is an exemption for employers (i guess if your job is important enough):

The date on which my employee is to report for service is one when we absolutely need the employee's services. What can be done?

The period for jury duty can be adjusted, with some restrictions. If your employee is called for jury service on a date not good for your business, most jurisdictions will allow the employee to re-set the date to report for service. You may be asked to document by letter the reason for the postponement. While one postponement usually will be granted, the employee will be expected to be available on the re-set date.

A request for postponement should be made as early as possible. The court will have less flexibility to grant postponements as the day of actual jury service approaches

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As of July 2007 twelve states have statutes specifically addressing breastfeeding and jury duty. Here is a document put together by Melissa R. Vance, JD, Legal Advisory Council on Breastfeeding and Jury Duty.

Here is a website
that promotes family-friendly jury duty legislation. One step towards making a family friendly culture.

On that note and completely off the topic of jury duty I want to give many thanks to our local watering hole The Corner Brewery for a family friendly pub! I know it has meant so much to so many families in this area to have a place to go and have a pint with some friends without having to stress about "who are we going to find to babysit the kids???" Thank you.

Thursday, March 27, 2008

it is almost april and...

we are expecting 3-6 inches of snow tonight. (one for the road eh?) a good excuse to get the fireplace fired up (lol).

today i got my house professionally cleaned!!!! i love barter. i believe it is the way to go. if anything it has been totally worth going to massage school to be able to barter for cleaning, painting, computers, coffee, you name it.

not only are my bathrooms renovated (wall paper gone and painted) but they are CLEAN.

there is something so beautiful about a clean that someone else did along with food that someone else cooked.

and it is scrabble night! yay!

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

victoria secret nursing bras???


why do i find this disturbing?

ok, let me clarify. i LOVE that bra and almost (but not really) wishes i was still nursing so i could buy this bra. and i am so excited that victorias secret is hopping on the band wagon for supporting (lol) breastfeeding mothers. but can we get some real models please?

would it be that hard to get a model that we could not see her ribs? this is not am image that new mothers need to be inundated wtih when looking for a sexy nursing bra. and yes i said sexy.. like smokin hot. i personally want mamas to feel sexy and smokin' postpartum in usually their plumper than usual selves.

also how does this help those mamas who are nursing and need to eat 300-400 more calories than they did when they were pregnant growing that baby. looking at this photo evokes the desire to sustain on water and cigarettes personally speaking.

wait a minute here is super model cindy crawford who DID have kids and proudly shows the badge of motherhood - stretch marks. i grabbed this image from this news blip. unfortunately the had to say "Unsightly: Cindy Crawford's stretch marks" under a super close up of her belly. i say rock on cindy crawford for wearing your bikini!

on a side note i would love to take a photo of this news organizations editors ass and do a close up on their unsightly butt pimples and cellulite and write about it in people magazine. for real.

if you have never checked it out here is the real Shape of a Mother.

what is blogging?

looking back i have taken a bit of the lazy woman's blogging style as of late. so here i am back in full force.

i am trudging through putting the next issue of The Birth Project together. i am trying a few new layout options (get a copy and check it out!) and i am dealing with temporarily not having access to the software i need on our new-to-us-used computer. i may mention here that i love and rely on technology but i hate it so. it makes my skin crawl. we have some really great pieces this time around. it will once again be a super "eeeeekkkkk" moment of excitement when we pick it up from out super awesome local printer.

the monkey has been getting nightly phone calls from a new friend of his that lives about a half hour from us, so we dont see them often enough, and the boys talk about their band that they are going to start. tonight it was decided that they will not form until christmas but will practice until then. it was absolutely adorable to eves drop on their conversation. the monkey was so geeked to be getting phone calls and it seems that this may become a nightly ritual. so cool. oh, the monkey is the drummer btw. sweet!

i measured the kids the other day and the bean has grown about an inch and a half since january. mind you in january i splurged and took the bean to value world and got her a garbage bag of new-to-her clothes and some of them are already too short. damn skippy! luckily i was prepared and bought some pants to roll up for now so they will fit in the fall. smart cookie i am.

on the homeschooling front- i swear february through april are a wash for me every year. i find also when i teach at work i am lack luster this time of year also. hmmmm..... maybe i am a bear and need to hibernate through these dreary months of torture. mind you we are having a record snow year for the first time since 1880 and it is supposed to snow this weekend (***sniffle***sniffle***tear runs down cheek) i am so done with this and so are the kiddos. we are all bouncing off the walls and dreaming of digging in the dirt (the beans favorite animal is the beloved worm) and growing and eating beautiful heirloom vegetables.

funny story: last week the kids had a big and the monkey threw up once (poor monkey) but it was the middle of the night and he saw it coming and mindfully asked for a bucket to have next to him just in case (always thinking ahead, that kid). when it did occur he was sleeping on the floor (he sleeps on the floor everynight training for his future as an adventurer) in my office which is a small room off our bedroom. the stench aweful - really it was like no words could describe. it was contained in the bowl provided and i quickly went to dispose. as i was coming back the monkey says "i lost my tooth" my reply "i didnt just flush it down the toilet, did i?". immediately i was trying to figure out if it was inappropriate to leave a quarter in the toilet for him in the morning. but no worries he had it in hand. whew. so the monkey is gap faced at the moment and has 1 week to self extract his other front tooth for the health of the tooth that has already come in behind it.

i have been working out again at the beautiful rec center. i have been lifting weights 3 times a week and riding the bike. training to roll with the cool kids of bike ypsi. i have come to accept that yoga, running and pilates are not my thing. they bore me really. i have found my groove and am rolling with it. it helps that the rec center is like a spa and i LOVE the in locker room hot tubs and dry sauna. it also helps that the last two times i was in the hot tub i was mistaken for a 20 and 23 year old by some older (50's) women. nice!


last update:we have been watching lost. we are through the second season and are starting season 3 tomorrow thanks to lovely wendy. it is a date night every night with lost. we snuggle up on the poof chair and watch 2-3 episodes. and i somehow kick the PSII remote (we use the PSII for the dvd player) and i either somehow put subtitles or a foreign language setting that we do not know how to undo. i find john locke to be personally inspiring. and makes me want to read john locke philosopher. i hear this is the addictive part of lost- all the little connections to this and that. how interesting.

i am writing this while watching (psudo-watching really) mythbusters and i just need to mention here that kari is a very attractive young lady. her bio photo is really cheesy and does her no justice- too done up.


AND most importantly MY BATHROOMS ARE DONE!!! wall paper gone (thanks to andy!) painted and decorated!!!!!! whooohoooo!!!

done with my catch up post. happy spring.

Monday, March 24, 2008

Food Find

Post easter dinner food find:
Cold ham leftovers with ready whip whip cream.
yum.

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

dinner

i feel a pot luck dinner party in my future. i put my fire pit together this weekend and gave it a whirl. so...... who is up for a spring dinner and fire???

(yes we have scrabble too ;)

Thursday, March 06, 2008

Monday, March 03, 2008

Do's and Dont's of New Baby Care

I came across this blog post and for a brief moment thought of incorporating it into my Newborn Infant Care Class.